Staying in relationship with your “Real intelligence” centers
We’re living in a moment where it seems we can outsource almost anything- your schedule, your shopping list, your entertainment, your cooking, your cleaning, your thinking. And now, even your creativity and problem-solving.
This post isn’t to say don’t use artifial intelligence, but a reminder to stay in relationship with your real intelligence. Don’t stop making contact with your real intelligence centers—your brain, your body, and your heart.
When you stop connecting with them, you don’t just get a little disconnected.
You give away your power.
Your intuition dulls.
Your clarity weakens.
Your ability to feel alive gets dimmer.
It’s nothing personal, it is just a ‘use it or lose it’ type of thing.
And that, to me, is sad honestly.
What Do I Mean by “Real Intelligence”?
When I say real intelligence, I’m not being poetic. I’m talking about the intelligence of nature—the mind, body, and spirit you evolved with for millions of years. The inner systems that kept you alive long before there were screens, tools, or technology.
Your brain, your nervous system, your emotions, your intuition; these are ancient, hard-won forms of genius. They are the original intelligence centers, and they require your attention to stay awake and alive in you.
Again, I’m not saying AI isn’t helpful. It is. It’s powerful. It’s a tool that can support creativity, clarity, and efficiency.
But its existence makes it even more important, not less, to stay in relationship with the intelligence within you.
Because if you hand your thinking, sensing, feeling, and choosing over to a machine, you stop practicing the very skills that make you human.
The truth that most people overlook is: when you’re not grounded in your body, aware of your own thoughts, connected to your values, or in honest relationship with your feelings, you become incredibly easy to manipulate and control. Not because you’re weak, but because you’re disconnected from the internal signals that tell you when something is off. When you lose touch with your real intelligence centers, you lose the ability to discern what is true, what is aligned, and what is yours. Staying connected to yourself is not just about healing or growth-it’s about sovereignty.
Your Brain: The Meaning-Maker
Your mind isn’t just a problem-solver; it’s the part of you that makes meaning. It connects dots, imagines futures, reflects on the past, and creates understanding.
Ask yourself:
When was the last time I let myself sit with a thought long enough to know what I think vs all of the influences around me?
Do I trust my own ideas, or do I look outside myself first?
Your thoughts are meant to be explored, not outsourced.
Your Body: The Truth-Teller
Your body is your oldest intelligence center. It knows what safety feels like.
What danger feels like. What alignment feels like. What burnout feels like. And it will tell you! Do you listen? It’s constantly communicating—tightness, openness, impulses, sensations. If you ignore it too long, the subtle messages will start screaming.
Ask yourself:
Do I pause long enough to notice how my body reacts to the people, choices, or habits in my life?
Am I aware of what “yes,” “no,” “too much,” and “not enough” feel like inside of me?
Your body is always speaking. Be with it and listen.
Your Heart: The Human Intelligence You Cannot Replace
Your heart isn’t just sentimental—it’s intelligent. It’s the part of you that knows what matters and it draws you toward purpose. It reminds you that life is not supposed to be lived numbly or automatically.
When you stop checking in with your heart, life gets efficient, but not meaningful. Busy, but not rich. Full, but not fulfilling.
Ask yourself:
Am I actually letting myself feel, or am I numbing/avoiding with distractions, scrolling, or “staying busy”?
When was the last time I felt genuinely alive-and what was I doing?
Your heart is where aliveness lives.
So Here’s the Real Question: Are You Still in Relationship With Yourself?
Not “are you self-aware?” or “do you meditate sometimes?” But: Do you put EFFORT into the relationship you have with your mind, body, and spirit?
Just like any other relationship, it requires:
Time
Curiosity
Honesty
Practice
Attention
Care
If you don’t regularly connect with your inner intelligence, you drift away from yourself. You become more reactive, more confused, more numb, and more dependent on external input. To me, that seems like the opposite of what we came here to experience.
Want to dig a little deeper?
Use these journal prompts to reconnect with your inner intelligence and strengthen self-trust:
1. What part of me (brain, body, or heart) have I been ignoring the most? What has it cost me?
2. When in my life have I felt the most alive—and which intelligence center was leading me then? What does that reveal?
3. Where am I outsourcing my knowing or clarity right now? What would it look like to bring that back home?
Being Human Is Not Something to Rush Through
Where are we trying to rush to anyways? I don’t know about you, but I want to savor this life and this experience of myself and the world. And to savor is to be present enought to enjoy the subtlety and depth of the present moment experience.
Explore the fullness of your inner world.
If you want to feel deeply alive, not just functional, this is the relationship you must keep choosing. The relationship with yourself. The one that holds your power, your clarity, and your aliveness. That is real.
#bereal
